Preciso te contar?: paternidade homoafetiva e a revelação para os filhos

• Autor(a) principal: Moris, Vera Lúcia
• Data de Publicação: 2008
• Tipo de documento: Tese
• Idioma: por
• Título da fonte: Biblioteca Digital de Teses e Dissertações da PUC_SP
• Texto Completo: https://tede2.pucsp.br/handle/handle/15773
• topic: Homoafetividade; Revelação; Segredo; Homossexuais -- Relacoes com a familia -- Aspectos psicologicos; Masculinidade; Pais e filhos; Paternidade -- Aspectos psicologicos; Clinical Psychology; Homoaffectivity; Paternity; masculinity; Disclosure; Secrecy; CNPQ::CIENCIAS HUMANAS::PSICOLOGIA

We conducted a qualitative study based on individual and group interviews with seventeen men, who are fathers involved in homoaffective relationships. Our clinical-theoretical approach was supported by critical studies on men and masculinities and homoaffectivity. We sought to understand the processes underlying the secrecy and disclosure of these fathers homoaffective relationships to their children. The group was quite heterogeneous and had different ages and professions. Most of these men come from privileged social backgrounds, and became aware of their homoaffectivity when they were already adults and fathers. These are modern fathers engaged in their children s daily routine and care; many of them are experiencing conflicts associated with divorce and separation from their children. Such conflicts can be heightened by inner homophobia and by their feeling threatened of losing privileges that they enjoy as hegemonic men. The results not only show that they take a distinct stand upon the disclosure of their homoaffectivity to their children, but also reveal their continuous clash with mainstream heteronormative ideas, which engenders a need for resignifying their concept of masculinity and paternity ruled by heterosexuality. The continuous confrontation associated with their need to seek other ideological vectors mark their personal emotional life inexorably. Their homoaffective orientation was a personal aspect which they resisted, while experiencing great difficulties to integrate it into their personality as they perceived themselves to be different from what is ascribed to men and fathers in their family, peer group and even internally. The practice of maintaining secrecy about their homosexuality towards their children, as an expression of their own resistance, may be an instrumental resource or may function as a repression domain that causes great psychic suffering and pain. These fathers are alone, and find it difficult to equip themselves, and to bring about the inner transformation necessary to assume their homosexuality and come out to their children. Overcoming these inner aspects coping instrumental resource or resistance or integrating aspects related to their new self-concept as man and father are demands that imply the need for clinical psychological support